How many times have we heard the expression above? More than 10 times I guess. But have we given serious consideration to its true meaning or not? Let's ponder......
Although the expression has a very deep and important meaning, how many of us really practice it? How many of us show our love to our family members the way we want them to love us? How often we tell our loved ones that we L.O.V.E them??????
How about at work, do we offer help to colleagues as we would like them to help us? Have you ever felt like being left out just because your friends do not include you in a conversation or a lunch trip?
Those (family & friends) are the people we know or love. Even them we sometimes failed to treat nicely, how about total strangers, such as people we ride the LRT together, people who queue in line with us at the bank, people who serve us food at KFC, those who gives us their service at the banks, and many more people....Well, too many people we need to consider taking care of their feeling that any real attempt to do so is futile !
What I mean by futile is when we TRY to be nice to everybody. My point is that we SHOULDN'T TRY to be nice to everyone ! We should be NICE naturally, that's the answer. Don't try because once we try, we may fail. If we just put ourselves in their shoes and treat them the way we want to be treated all the times, then we should be fine.
Now let's hold that thought about being nice NATURALLY to strangers, and let's get back to our beloved ones. Because they're even more important in our short life on this world.
As for our family, I sincerely believe that we MUST TRY VERY VERY VERY hard to be nice to them, because if we don't try then we'll never do it and we'll never be nice to them.
Why is family & friends different from strangers? Simply because Love Starts At Home. If you're caring at home, you'll carry the same attitude outside, don't you think so !
For example, if you want your kid to study instead of playing games...imagine you are your own kid, how would you like to be told? Would you like to be shouted at or be whispered in a soft and smooth voices to your small ears? .......you just imagine you are them........you'll know which one's you'll listen and internalise forever !!!!
I for one is practising soft approach to my kids as opposed to the hard approach I used to practise and I'm seeing some positive results both to my kids and myself.....they tend to listen better to my instructions/requests and I tend to be more loving towards them !
What's your opinions my friends?
Sincerely Improving Every Day, For Self, For Family & For The Mankind
AMIR HAMDZAN HAMZAH
